Divorce is among the most traumatic events in a person’s life. It cannot and should not be underestimated. Professional help is available and should be used wherever possible.
I highly recommend the use of Mental Health Specialists in helping both the adults and the children get through this difficult time. Support groups are also very useful. Having the ability to talk to someone who has seen your kind of problem before and knows how to guide you though the processes and psychological healing is a wonderful thing. For children, there is also the added benefit of being able to talk to someone other than the parent about issues involving the parent. This can be a wonderful release for them. Check into your health insurance coverage to see if mental health is covered in whole or in part.